Wordiness vs Quietness

I have been reading through a number of blogs recently, ever since exams was over and I had more time to sit back and just be lazy. And I happened to stumble by one that has a really short post about how shock-striken he was about the fact that the girl he likes passed away due to a hit-and-run accident.

I read through the comments and saw the mountainous empty words like, "Be strong", "Don't worry", "Take care, okay?"; descriptive comforting words; and what's worse, Bible verses.

And funny how I can't seem to stop feeling pity for the author who has friends with empty words and friends who can't identify with him. Yet, as I placed myself in the similar situation, I realized that I wouldn't have been much of a non-empty friend or a guy with non-empty friends. After all, we are all insincere friends and people who attempt to console although we can't possibly understand how hellish things are. See the contradiction?

However, perhaps it's just me - for someone who prefers silence and company while in times of depression, especially from friends who are not close to me (and may I add, lameness when I am moody never helps but sparks more irritation). Perhaps it's just the irritation that drives me insane sometimes when I realize that people say what they say without meaning it because they hope in doing so, they can help make me feel better (which is always a failure). Perhaps it's just me being me; I only prefer a very selected few to know my current state, and they are the ones who have to be skillful with words (because although I am not that good with words, I tend to read in between the lines a lot too, and I can bend a word in quite many ways).

And perhaps because of the above, I realized that I seldom stick around, trying to say words of comfort because I know that I might end up trying to attempt to make that person feel better. I just sit and be quiet to lend a listening ear.

Note that I am not praising myself; I am just mere stating that there are times wordiness isn't needed, but company.

And that is treasured above the insincere empty words that offer no help but more grief.